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An Intro to Self-Defense*
Economy & Stress Violence
How NOT To Get Shot
Jail For Defending Yourself
Provoking An Attack*
Positive and Negative Rights*
Using Your MA
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Expert Witness Service
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Let's start with five critical points. Points that trump anything you think you know about self-defense and the 'law.'
#1 - This is NOT legal advice (you get that from an
attorney), but it is about a major hole in most so-called
#2 - There is a difference between the law and the legal
#3 - Ours is not a justice system, it's a legal system.
# 4 -
is a legally defined term.
#5 - If you claim self-defense you are confessing
a crime. (Well technically you're confessing to the elements of
So how'd you do? If those points are news to you, you might
want to get a cup of coffee and spend some time here.
When It Isn't Self-Defense
An overwhelming majority of physical violence is -- in someway -- illegal. This is over and above someone in the system looking for an excuse to charge and convict you.
Usually people don't get arrested for defending themselves; they get arrested for committing illegal violence while telling themselves they are defending themselves. Even if it starts as self-defense, all it takes is one extra hit, one impulsive move or one excessive trigger pull for you to cross the line from a defender to an attacker.
Issues like pride, fear, anger and bad information are far more dangerous to you than the person you are fighting with. They will motivate you to cross the line while, at the same time, convincing you that you are 'defending' yourself.
There are serious legal (as well as life-altering) issues about using force on another human being. Before you listen to someone who wants to teach you how to shoot, stab or commando ninja someone, realize that person can be putting you in just as much danger as a potential attacker. You had better know the differences between violence, self-defense, fighting and justified use of force.
I have a saying: I am constantly approached by people who are willing to go to any extreme for personal safety ... except practicing emotional self-control. This not only includes not letting your fear drive you to pulling the trigger, stabbing someone or unleashing your deadly kung fu on someone because of 'fear,' but one's participation, creation and escalation of a conflict. This includes not only what you said and did to get the other person to back off, but your refusal to just walk away. This is critical because usually, violence comes with instructions how to avoid it
Except, often pride, anger, fear and imagination prompt us to do exactly the opposite. When this occurs the violence is considered participatory (fighting). Even though our internal reality is that we are trying to prevent violence.
Reality doesn't conform to what you think a 'real
fight' is, you must conform to the actualities of what
violence is, how and
why it occurs. And that means what happens
before, during and after. All of which extend far,
far beyond the microscopic focus of martial arts,
reality based fighting systems or women's self-defense
programs. If you participated in the creation,
escalation and gave cause for violence, then you will
be judged to be a participant, not a victim of violence.
Do your homework
This is a very accurate and wise summation of a problem regarding a word's significance. The reason is each of us have our own -- often unconscious -- definitions and implications of words. Although there is often general agreement, we all have our own personal shadings, connotations and meanings about what a word means. And we often act according to that private definition.
So what you have is a lot of people using the same word, but each meaning something slightly different. When a problem develops, everyone is wondering "what is wrong with the other person". Not realizing that source of the problem is that they have different definitions of the same word and were each acting according to their own definitions. Overcoming these kind of problems is a major focus of communication and management specialists.
Having said this about fuzzy definitions, there are NO gray areas in the meaning of legal terms. They are very specific and exact in what they mean. For hundreds of years these words have been hammered out and defined as people have tried to weasel around them.
As such, it doesn't matter what you think the word means, you will be judged by these established legal definitions. It is up to you to know the definitions of these words and tailor your actions accordingly. That's because just one or two ill chosen words will totally blow your claim of self-defense out of the water.
We recommend taking a tour of the legal definitions presented at the Lectric Law Library, read Introduction to Use of Force and consult with an attorney before you even think of using what you know in an actual encounter. While you're at it, check your state AND local statutes and consult with your attorney before engaging in what you think is 'self-defense.'
Quite simply most people's definition of 'self-defense' is looked upon by the law as fighting (consensual combat -- look that up too). As such you will be arrested and charged IF you were fighting instead of defending yourself. Also, take a look at the 'Lectric Law Library's outline of the common legal interpretation of self-defense, then compare local interpretation and caveats.
Pay close attention to the "mutual combat" and "quarrel" clauses. As these subtly phrased, but very important clauses, can and will destroy any chance you have of claiming it was "self-defense" if the incident report is written up along these lines. No matter how justified or 'set upon' you felt you were, that report is a legal document and will be the source of all legal action.
If you are thinking of carrying any kind of weapon (especially a gun or knife) we recommend you take Masaad Ayoob's, Judicious Use of Lethal Force seminar before you ever pick up that weapon. You will not learn this information in a martial art school. Remember, weapons are like power tools, mistakes happen much faster and are far nastier.
Going to Jail for 'Defending Yourself'
Unfortunately most of the answers coming from the self-defense/martial arts trainers aren't just out in left field, they're over the fence and out in the weeds.
There are several overlapping
issues that contribute to this whole morass. We take a
look at the idea of going to
Jail For Defending Yourself
Postive and Negative 'Rights'
What Is Viewed As